About

A Holistic, Integrative Approach to Mental Health and Personal Development

I am Lizzy Oakley, a Holistic Therapist, Integrative Counsellor, Psychotherapist, Supervisor, Coach and Mentor, as well as a Reiki Master Teacher and Hypnotherapist, with over 15 years of experience in private practice.

My work is grounded in the understanding that mental health and personal development are rarely simple, isolated, or singular.

People do not arrive with one diagnosis, one symptom, or one neatly defined issue. They arrive with interconnected emotional, psychological, physical, relational, and nervous system experiences, often shaped by trauma, chronic stress, neurodivergence, illness, or long-term overwhelm.

My work is centred on recognising how these experiences interconnect, ensuring that support is not fragmented but aligned, considered, and genuinely effective.

THE SCOPE OF MY WORK

I work across a broad range of mental health and emotional wellbeing presentations. This includes, but is not limited to:

  • Anxiety and panic

  • Depression and low mood

  • Trauma, PTSD and complex trauma

  • Emotional regulation difficulties

  • Identity, self-worth and self-concept

  • Relationship and attachment patterns (see Coaching and Mentoring section)

  • Neurodivergence (ADHD and Autism)

  • Chronic illness, pain and fatigue-related conditions

  • Burnout, stress and nervous system overload

Many of the people I work with do not fit neatly into diagnostic categories. My work focuses on understanding how experiences intersect, rather than narrowing focus prematurely.

SPECIALIST EXPERIENCE: BPD / EUPD

A key area of my work is supporting individuals who identify with, or have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD).

I work from a non-stigmatising, trauma-informed perspective, understanding these experiences as adaptive responses to relational trauma, emotional invalidation, and nervous system dysregulation, not as character flaws.

My work in this area includes:

  • Emotional regulation and distress tolerance
  • Managing intense emotional experiences
  • Relationship instability and fear of abandonment
  • Impulsivity and crisis cycles
  • Building a stable sense of self and identity

I am trained in Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to Level 3 and integrate DBT-informed approaches flexibly, adapting them to the individual rather than applying rigid frameworks.

CHRONIC ILLNESS, FIBROMYALGIA AND MIND BODY WORK

I have extensive experience supporting individuals living with Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, long-term pain conditions, and invisible illness.

Mental and physical health are deeply interconnected in these contexts. Chronic illness impacts emotional wellbeing, identity, relationships, and nervous system regulation.

My approach bridges psychological understanding with pacing, nervous system regulation, self-compassion, and acceptance-based work, supporting individuals to rebuild a workable and sustainable relationship with their bodies and their lives.

TRAUMA INFORMED AND NEURODIVERGENT AFFIRMING PRACTICE

All of my work is trauma-informed. This means:

  • Safety and stabilisation come before deeper exploration
  • Work is paced according to capacity, not expectation
  • The nervous system is always considered
  • The process is collaborative, not imposed

I am also neurodivergent-affirming. ADHD and Autism are not treated as problems to be fixed, but as differences that require understanding, adaptation, and respect.

AN INTEGRATIVE WAY OF WORKING

I do not work from a single modality.

Instead, I draw from a range of approaches depending on what is needed, when it is needed, and how it can be worked with safely and effectively. This may include:

  • Integrative counselling and psychotherapy
  • DBT-informed skills work
  • Trauma stabilisation approaches
  • Mindfulness and grounding
  • Somatic and nervous system regulation
  • Hypnotherapy where appropriate
  • Reiki as complementary, consent-led support

The approach is always intentional, ethical, and adapted, never random.

THE BLUE AMBER METHOD

Alongside my counselling, psychotherapy, coaching, and mentoring work, I have developed The Blue Amber Method, my own integrative, holistic mentorship model.

This approach brings together my clinical experience, professional training, and lived understanding into a bespoke, session-based process designed to support both depth and forward movement.

Further information about The Blue Amber Method can be found on its dedicated page.

WORKING WITH ME

Working with me is grounded, honest, and containing.

This is not about quick fixes. It is about creating the space, structure, and understanding needed to make sense of your experiences and move forward in a way that genuinely fits you.

The work is practical where needed, reflective where useful, and always paced to avoid overwhelm.

Whether through counselling, psychotherapy, coaching, mentoring, or The Blue Amber Method, the focus remains the same, supporting meaningful, sustainable change.

Contact Information

Blue Amber Counselling-Lizzy Oakley